I’ve been thinking recently about how we unfold, over the course of our lifetime, from little seeds into the hugely complex people we are now. How strongly do our conditions (our families, the culture of the country we live in) affect our personalities? How much is already prescribed by our DNA?
How much control do we have over the plants we turn into?
I’ve spent this month revising all the materials in our e-courses and preparing them for their next incarnation as self-study.
As I read the exercises, essays and emails I remember the journeys of the hundreds of people who have taken the courses over the past few years. Their curiosity and energy, the insights they had, the changes they made in their lives.
These people definitely had control over the shape of their unfolding.
This is true in my own life too. There is certainly much that is beyond my control (including all other people and objects) – more than I would like to acknowledge. But, however compulsive or unconsciously-driven my behaviour, I believe that I always have a choice. When I encounter something difficult, I can make a difference by staying open and being curious about what is happening. I can stay and not walk away. I can say sorry. I can learn more about my own fears and habits and joys and passions. I can take in new information about others and about the world.
Our journeys aren’t always easy. But, as I tell my psychotherapy clients, when it gets difficult it’s often a sign that there’s a really good bit just around the next corner. The final letting go of an old habit, or the peeling back of another layer of prickly defence which allows us to let some more good stuff in (and out).
Just like plants, adverse conditions can help us to grow stronger. But, as people, we don’t have to stand out there in the garden and hope for the best. We can work on surrounding ourselves with supportive friends and colleagues. We can feed ourselves good food. We can offer ourselves contemplation time and forgiveness and love. Lots of forgiveness and love. It’s like well-rotted manure!
If you would like to be accompanied on your own journey, you now have the opportunity to study in your own time with WOWH – receiving the same materials & daily emails for half the old cost (£25/$40). Read more & register here today.
And you might want to spend some time today or this weekend feeling curious about what kind of plant you are, or what you’d like to become. Is it time that you changed some of your growing conditions? Have you been fighting against something that is too deeply ingrained in your nature to change drastically? Have you spent enough time basking in the sun?
I’m an uncovering-the-truth plant. What about you? Tell me in the comments below.
Grow well : )
Artichoke by Zen Sutherland, with gratitude