After recent posts I felt the need to redress the balance a bit. I don’t usually make banana pancakes for breakfast. I’m confused about many things both today and every day. I usually write when I’ve come to some clarity about something, so there are many messy and hideous things that you don’t know about. I’m really pretty awful in parts, just like the rest of the human race. I hope that helps.
I didn’t win the author blog awards, but Jackie Morris was a runner-up – she should have won. Congratulations Jackie! And I’m very happy to be in such good company with the rest of the non-winners. (OK, losers…) Thank you if you voted for me, it wasn’t in vain because I know you did.
I got an email from Lulu today saying that if you wanted to buy my book ‘A Year of Questions’ you can get free postage by using the code FREEMAILUK305 when you buy the book. Don’t tell Lulu I told you, but you can also get it on Amazon UK, Amazon US, or cheapest of all on The Book Depository (with free worldwide delivery).
Or, as my dad discovered yesterday, you can snap up a copy for a bargain £22.74 on Abe Books (shipped from Australia). I don’t think they’ll be selling that copy anytime soon. Here’s an extract from the book… happy Wednesday. I’m off back out to my sunny bench to study.
WEEK 4 – Giving from a place of plenty
I sat down to write this musing yesterday morning but I felt reluctant, resentful, I wanted to be out walking in the September sun. I could have forced myself to sit down and plough through it, but I would have been giving from an empty place.
Giving from an empty place can often pay off in the short term. A friend asks to borrow some money, and we don’t really have much spare but we say yes. Our partner asks us for a lift somewhere – we’ve just settled down on the sofa with a book but we put it aside and put on a smile. Everyone’s happy.
But over time giving from a place of empty costs us and those around us. Giving from this place can use up a lot more of our energy than giving when we want to give. And all the little resentments that we think we’re covering up can slip out in unexpected ways.
Often we just need to grit our teeth and get on with it – saying ‘I don’t really feel like feeding you tonight’ to a hungry three year old isn’t an option. But maybe it is possible to look after our ‘giving reserves’ a little more carefully – by saying no when we need to, by giving more to ourselves. In the long run we’ll probably end up giving more, and what we give will be given gladly and with love.
Things you might be curious about
How often do you give from an empty place? From a place of plenty? How does it feel different? How can you start to fill up your giving reserves?
Suggestions for this week
Give yourself something every day this week – a cup of cocoa with cream on top, half an hour longer in a lavender bath, a ride on your motorbike, a bunch of tulips. At the end of the week, choose something to give to someone else – a hand-made card, a shoulder massage, breakfast in bed. Choose something that you genuinely want to give.
Rich gifts wax poor when givers prove unkind. William Shakespeare
Blessed are the generous who keep enough for themselves so we can live with them without guilt. Blessed, too, are those who receive well, so the generous get their reward. Stephen Dunn