Monthly Archives: September 2011

An interview with Sage Cohen: Poet, Author & All-Round-Marvellous-Person

Fiona writes: I fell in love with Sage’s beautiful blog and her exquisite poetry many (how many? 5?) years ago. Then she fell in love with mine, and we’ve been in love with each other’s work (and each other!) ever since. 
Her first book, Writing the Life Poetic, is a MUST for anyone who wants to write poetry. Anyone who wants to carve out some space for writing (esp if you find it difficult) should buy The Productive Writer. And Like the Heart, the World is one of the handful of poetry collections I return to again and again. Visit her at Path of Possibility.
As you might be able to tell, I think Sage is an all-round-marvellous-person. 
One of these days I might even get to meet her : )  


So, lovely Sage, on with the interview. What drives your creative work?

The need to inhabit truth — to write myself toward something resembling comprehension.


What would you say to yourself if you could go back in time and meet yourself at the beginning of your creative career?

You are worthy. Yes you are. Always have been. Always will be. 

How do you keep creating when things get difficult?

Sometimes I don’t. The beauty of having a lifetime of experience with my craft is that I have come to know and trust my rhythms and seasons. Sometimes, life is just too difficult to write. I don’t worry about whether I’m writing or not…I let the words come when they’re ready; and I follow them wherever they are headed.

How does your creative work affect the rest of your life?

Writing has taught me how to live. I became conscious of this in my son’s first year. Every two hours, every night, we were awake. And because of my writing practice, I had a means of savoring this exquisite exhaustion. I’d hold my thirsty child, feeling the pulse of history moving through the union of our bodies. I knew how to be present without wishing to be or feel or do anything else. I could sense in my peripheral vision the thread of humanity stitching us to every mother and child all over the world who were awake this minute, nursing as we were–to the mothers and children of all time. I think what I am trying to say is this: writing has given me deeper access to both the intimacies of my own life and the cross-hatch of the universal where we all overlap. 

What is it like to send your work out into the world?

I have always focused on the thrill of simply getting my work in the mail in time for the deadline. For me, that’s the real triumph. Being committed to moving forward and taking action in that direction is my part of the bargain. The rest is out of my hands. If my work is published, that’s nice, too. But honestly, it doesn’t feel any better to see my name in print than it does to drop that sealed envelope in the mailbox. 

What was the best advice anyone gave to you?

My mother taught me the art of breaking  down a big, complex problem into its component, approachable (and therefore solvable) parts. 

What helps you to pay attention to the world?
My three-year-old son. My cats and dogs. They slow me down, they stretch my heart open to greater vulnerability and compassion, to deeper listening. Also, I have come to understand that I need to bookend my days with: a morning dog walk in the forest and a before-bed bubble bath. These practices both enliven and settle me, such that I am more lucid and receptive.
Thank you so much for visiting, Sage. In lieu of a nice cup of tea and slice of cake, it’ll do nicely! Now, lovely readers, get yourselves off to your favourite bookshop and buy Sage’s books!

Writing our way towards slow…

Fiona writes: Need to take a deep breath today?

I’ve written a new article about writing our way towards s…l…o…w. It’s up now at Creativity Portal, and will be the first in a series.

I’m also very excited that we’ll be doing some writing for Elephant Journal soon too – watch this space.

The picture has nothing to do with being slow, unless I make up a tenuous link. I just stumbled upon it again when I was looking for snail, and I wanted to share it with you. It’s by the hugely talented Clive Hicks-Jenkins, who we had the pleasure of meeting earlier in the year. Do have a look at his luminous paintings. This one is my favourite. Stunning.

Have marvellous Wednesdays.

Podcast: There certainly are wobbles


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Fiona writes: This morning, we spoke about the kinds of things that are difficult to talk about.

The kind of thing that poetry attempts. What are we, as people? Where do our personalities come from? Is there such a thing as a ‘real me’ or a me at all?

We also spoke about the terrible raw risk of being alive as opposed to ossified, and what happens when we push our aliveness up against other people’s aliveness (ouch). Mark Waldron speaks about this in his poem, ‘Well yes, where we interface’, which Kaspa reads at the beginning of our podcast, and which you can also hear Mark reading here. Do buy Mark’s latest collection, The Itchy Sea (Amazon UK/Amazon US) – it really is splendid.


Thank you for listening. Do let us know if we made a teensy bit of sense. I’m not so sure today. (oh, and I started a new radio show for She Writes last night called Breathing Space – I spoke about ‘writing towards joy’ yesterday, and I had an actual caller! Listen here…)

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Well yes, where we interface

there certainly are wobbles – the fit not being perfect. 
This strangeness comes from there,
partly from the shock of finding it forced on us, 
and partly from finding it’s not as natural to us
as death is. 
Yes, where we press up upon living
there certainly are jolts, 
so that we might seem to stick for a moment
and then jump lurchingly 
as continental plates do, catastrophically sometimes,
and when you meet someone, in the street perhaps, 
even someone you know, whole large chunks of them
might be torn away by this effect 
and roll to the side of the road
and you’ll be shouting at them somewhere 
in an absolutely murdered voice, and them at you.
Mark Waldron

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PS I’ll be in Ty Newydd in Wales for Mark Charlton & Rory MacClean’s LANDSCAPE, TRAVEL AND MEMOIR – FROM BLOGS TO BOOKS (October 24th – 29th), and places are now available on the week-long course for £250 – a huge bargain. To find out more click here.

Gratitude & a new radio series, ‘Breathing Space’

Scattered CloudsThis morning, I got all stressed about something technological taking longer than it should have taken. I ended up with one of those huge knots in my stomach.

Eventually I took myself into the garden with a book of poems for ten minutes. This was the next poem in the book I’m currently reading:

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FISHING IN THE KEEP OF SILENCE

There is a hush now while the hills rise up
and God is going to sleep. He trusts the ship
of Heaven to take over and proceed beautifully
as He lies dreaming in the lap of the world.
He knows the owls will guard the sweetness
of the soul in their massive keep of silence,
looking out with eyes open or closed over
the length of Tomales Bay that the herons
conform to, whitely broad in flight, white
and slim in standing. God, who thinks about
poetry all the time, breathes happily as He
repeats to Himself: There are fish in the net,
lots of fish this time in the net of the heart.

Linda Gregg

(Do go and buy her book, ‘All of It Singing’.)

I’m very grateful to the knot in my stomach for taking me to Linda’s wonderful mysterious poem with such urgency. There are fish in the net.

I’ve written about the subject of gratitude on She Writes today. You can also hear me on the radio at 3pm EST, for the first of my new series called ‘Breathing Spaces’. Today I’ll be talking about writing our way towards joy. Use the same link later to listen to the podcast of the show.

The grace of slugs

Fiona writes: I hate slugs.

I hate their ugly fat bodies. Their sludgy colours. Their icky sliminess. Their eating-my-lettuce-behaviour. I hate them.
Last weekend, I was on a three day retreat in a hut at the bottom of a garden. I had nothing to do but sit on a chair (or walk round the
hut) and look at what was around me. For hour after hour after hour. After hour. After hour.
On the third day, after rain, a slug came to see me.


He had the darkest black velvet optical tentacles. They reached in front of him delicately, tasting the air.

I looked at the stippled patterns on his body. The direction changed at his foot fringe, which looked like a skirt brushing the surface of the path. His trail glittered.
His body moved with a grace that astonished me. Like a fish in slow motion, or the curve of a swan’s neck, or a ballerina’s arms. I watched him slide his way towards the grass. He was beautiful.
I don’t think slugs will ever be my favourite animal. Especially as we have two kittens arriving in less than two weeks… But it did take silence, and time, and space, for me to notice their beauty.
If you gave yourself some silence, time and space, what beauty might you find?
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If you want to give yourself seven days to practice seeing this beauty, you could try Kaspa’s new ‘experience‘ - it’s free to join, and it works by giving you simple instructions bit by bit. It’s rather marvellous, go see.
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Registration for my October e-course Writing Towards Healing will close this Friday, do let me know if you’re thinking about it.
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An interview with Brad Blanton: The Truth Doctor

Fiona writes: Today I’m honoured to be welcoming a hero of mine to our site…

Brad Blanton was trained in Gestalt Therapy by Fritz Perls, M.D., Ph.D., the founder of Gestalt Therapy, and in hypnosis by Milton Erickson, M.D.

His first book, Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth, became a nation-wide bestseller in 1996 and has been translated into nine languages. He now lives in Stanley, Virginia, where he spends his time writing, farming, community organizing and conducting seminars in Radical Honesty. To read more about Brad and his trail-blazing work, click here.

Thank you for your time, Brad, and welcome to Writing Our Way Home. What drives your creative work?
As a result of how I was raised I wanted to help people. The first half of my life I did that reactively as an activist and by getting a Ph.D. when I was 25 years old in Psychology, specializing in Cognition and Creativity. About 25 years ago or so I decided to live my life as an act of creation rather than a reaction to how I was raised. I came to understand that there is a big difference between using what you learned in your early life as a creator, and just living in reaction to it, either predictably acting according to how you were raised or the opposite to how you were raised. Using and modifying the technology I learned from numerous sources, which is gone into in more detail in my book Practicing Radical Honesty, I have consciously designed my life each year by writing up the projects of my life, making them consistent with my life purpose (by either changing the projects or changing the purpose of my life). So I have three children, seven books, good physical health, a couple of divorces, another marriage, a house, a yurt, land in the country, several Promenades, a respectable golf handicap, some songs and poems and articles and hundreds of radio and TV shows and a few dozen other things–that were originally written up as projects, whose vision statements were consistent with this Life Purpose Statement: “The purpose of my life is to use my intelligence, love of children, love of people, creativity and skill in attuning to others by writing books, conducting seminars, doing publicity, raising children and grandchildren and playing with others to bring about a world in which every human being born on the planet has food, shelter, medical care, security and the opportunity to live an entire lifetime of play with and service to others.”

What would you say to yourself if you could go back in time and meet yourself at the beginning of your creative career? 
Keep doin what you’re doin. It will turn out O.K.

How do you keep creating when things get difficult? 
I can always write. I have never really had a writer’s block. I write all the time. I either write emails or work on books or edit drafts already written. I love doing all of it. Now and then a poem or song will start writing me so I follow it. A writer writes.

How does your creative work affect the rest of your life? 
I think it is what my life is. It is hard to imagine not creating. I can’t imagine a life without creating. The last few days I have created some fine golf shots, a tomato patch, a solution to car trouble, about a hundred emails, a bunch of phone calls, some fine mixed drinks, some renditions of songs I learned or wrote a long time ago, some conversations with friends online and in person about the March on Washington on October 6, the outline of a book on the Truth of Experience to co-author, several Skype conversations, getting the wash done, etc.

What is it like to send your work out into the world? That is fun. It also inspires me constantly to hear from people who have benefitted from what I wrote or taught in a seminar or coached. It is like riding on a sea of support and encouragement. There is a constant invitation out there to keep on keeping on with what I am doing, a lot of joy and enjoyment, and a lot of funny things happening all the time. For example, we have just made an executive decision here at Radical Honesty Enterprises to attempt to educate the poor ignernt persons who are stupid enough to vote Republican or for ass kissing corporate Democrats, with t shirts! Our first one, being printed this week, is: “I DON’T NEED SEX! A Giant Corporate “Person” FUCKS Me Every Day!”

What was the best advice anyone gave to you? 
It’s O.K. to feel sorry for yourself. You’ve had some hard times. Other people have too. It’s O.K. to feel sorry for all of us including yourself. Let yourself grieve for all of us.

What helps you to pay attention to the world? 
Work coaching people, one on one, with couples or in groups. Meditation. Yoga. Pot. Alcohol. Golf. Hot Tubs. Sex. The Dailey Show with Jon Stewart. The Internet. Exercise. The Love of Children. Modeling myself after 4 year olds.

Thank you Brad. So grateful that you’re doing what you’re doing  in the world : )

Experience the world more deeply in 7 days (free new thing)

Kaspa writes: Do you want to have deeper connection with the world? Do you want to notice more?

Join my week long experience on Mightybell.

We’ll spend seven days together, writing one small stone each day. We’ll be noticing one thing properly and writing it down.

“A small stone is a very short piece of writing that precisely captures a fully-engaged moment.” From How to Write Small Stones, by Fiona Robyn

Rachel Hawes wrote a small stone every day in January. She said that:

I have to tell you, readers, I have loved writing a small stone every day for the last 31 days. It’s the most glorious exercise in mindfulness, in pulling yourself into this moment, and if you haven’t tried it yet please give it a go, if only for a week…It has come as a surprise to find so much going on out there. And an even greater surprise to realise that all that time I spend daydreaming can in fact be spent watching the world out of the window.

Join me and see how beautiful the world can be.

Petunias:
We have neglected them. They have been blooming for us since May: deep fuchsia pink, cross-hatched purple, salmon. They are tired now, leggy, but in this autumn chill they continue their push towards eternity.

a small stone by Fiona

What you get: each day you’ll get short instructions and advice, encouraging to go in to the world and to really start seeing to notice one thing each day and write it down. And each day I’ll share one of my favorite small stones with you.You’ll also be able to connect with fellow travelers on the experience, and share your thought, and your small stones.

What’s the catch? There isn’t one. We’d love some of you to join us elsewhere – on the forum, or an e-course, but this seven days is an offering I’ve created this morning, after my enthusiasm for writing small stones was re-ignited.

What do I get from writing small stones?

1) I notice things more. Other people. Things in the world. I am more awake.

Writing small stones makes me pay better attention to the world. I thought I was pretty good at paying attention – but since I’ve started writing small stones I’ve really been looking and listening to what’s going on. Really paying attention brings a whole host of things: moments of delight, as well as of longing and sadness. It deepens my connection with the whole of life.

2) Writing small stones makes me a better writer. In the act of writing I search for accurate descriptions, and for interesting metaphors and similes. I try and avoid clichés – I want my small stone to be as fresh as the moment that I noticed.

3) I love doing it.

Candice has just started writing them – on her blog she says that:

Writing small stones down is a good practice because in writing them they become an expression of praise.  And if you love words, recording small stones becomes a play date.  You create something very poetic without tons of effort, and more importantly to me, the practice take me away from the electronic world of email, group discussions, blog stats and Facebook.  Collecting small stones brings balance into my life because it’s a more satisfying way of connecting with the world.

Candice Carden-Deal,  Return2Writing

Join the seven day experience today.

Article: How to improve your relationship with money

‘Just about everyone wants more money. It is assumed that money is the thing that can buy us security – access to good medical care, food, insurance, nice things to have in one’s home or give as gifts, cars, clothes – an infinite list. This assumption goes unchallenged in normal, everyday society. In our current financial crisis, I have yet to read any opinion which does not centre on the basic assumption that money is the solution.’
Rev. Master Seikai Luebke, from Struggles: to Have, to Hold, to Let Go
Fiona writes: Is more money always the answer? Does our experience of abundance depend entirely on how much money we have in the bank? Can we improve our financial health without increasing our wealth?    

Over the years I have had the experience of feeling very satisfied with my lot when earning very little money. At other times I have had more cash but have been plagued by the fear of scarcity – all the money in the world wouldn’t have been enough for me. It wasn’t the money that was the problem, it was me. This realisation encouraged me to look at how I relate to money and to abundance, and this investigation has helped me to feel richer, regardless of how much I actually have.
Times are hard. There is no denying that being made redundant or not being able to afford Christmas presents causes real suffering. Despite these hardships, most of us are lucky enough to live in an affluent country where we’re not likely to starve. Without minimising the seriousness of these real difficulties, how can we begin to enjoy our money again in the midst of all the financial doom and gloom?
Here are some suggestions to get you started.
1. Become curious about your relationship with money
How did your parents handle money while you were growing up? What are your beliefs about money? How do you feel about people who have more or less of it than you do? Our relationship with money is complex, but when look closer it will start to lose its hold over us. ‘The Energy of Money’ by Maria Nemeth is a good place to get started and is full of useful exercises and ideas to improve the ways we channel our money-energy.
2. Start a gratitude list
At the end of every day write a list of twenty things you can feel grateful for. Everything counts – a cup of earl grey on a cold day, your gas bill being less than you expected, your cat’s purr, the blue sky, your raincoat for keeping you dry. Commit to writing a daily list for four weeks and see if it gets any easier. You might want to do this with a friend and swap your lists at the end of each week.
3. Get creative
Enjoy being creative about the way you use your money. Instead of buying your sandwiches, make them at home. Sell your old books on Green Metropolis. Listen to free music at Spotify. Hold a ‘swapping party’ with your friends and bring along the clothes/books etc. you don’t want any more. Go to car book sales. Grow your own runner beans. Brew your own beer. It is possible to have fun while you’re saving money!

4. Pay yourself a ‘Splurge Allowance’
Put aside a little money every week to ‘splurge’ on yourself. The amount doesn’t matter – the principle is that you’ll spend it on something you want but don’t need. If you only have £3 to spare then you could buy a magazine, a posh bar of chocolate, lettuce seeds, a matinee cinema ticket, or a bus ride to a different town. Or you could start saving up for something bigger. Having a budget encourages you to make choices and thnk about where your priorities are.
5. Slow down and wake up
When you do spend money, make sure you savour it. Do you really need that daily pastry from Starbucks? Fine – as long as you don’t gulp it down without savouring every bite. Try to become more mindful whenever you feel the urge to shop – are you spending because you feel anxious, bored or unloved? Keep a friendly eye on yourself when you spend and you’re guaranteed to learn a lot!
Most people’s relationship with money goes back a long way. Like our other relationships, it is made up of many complex layers. It might feel uncomfortable or painful as you uncover the hidden layers, but even small insights can make a big difference to the ease of your relationship with money. Gently encourage yourself to persevere. Enjoy the journey.
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I’ll be reposting my old articles here once a week so they’ll all be in the same place… if you enjoy them, please share them around. Thank you!

Podcast: Autumn wistfulness


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Fiona writes: We speak up for the merits of wistfulness this week, and ponder over Basho’s directive (below).

I also mention kittens, as there are only two weeks until our pair arrive…

What are your thoughts about Autumn? Your experiences?

Do share in the comments, and thank you for listening.

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An autumn night
don’t think your life
didn’t matter.

~Basho


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Autumn Day

Translated by Galway Kinnell and Hannah Liebmann

Lord: it is time. The summer was immense.
Lay your shadow on the sundials
and let loose the wind in the fields.


Bid the last fruits to be full;
give them another two more southerly days,
press them to ripeness, and chase
the last sweetness into the heavy wine.


Whoever has no house now will not build one anymore.
Whoever is alone now will remain so for a long time,
will stay up, read, write long letters,
and wander the avenues, up and down,
restlessly, while the leaves are blowing.


Rainer Maria Rilke

Three reasons why I love writing small stones

red kiteKaspa writes: I lapsed a little with my small stone practice. Let me tell you when I lapsed, and what I noticed when I started again…

“A small stone is a very short piece of writing that precisely captures a fully-engaged moment.” From How to Write Small Stones.

In January, Fiona and I asked you all to notice one thing every day and write it down. You all produced some beautiful small stones. I took part then, and after January I kept going, noticing and writing one small stone each day, and recording some of them on my blog.

I kept writing all through the July challenge (when we invited you all to write something down each day again), and then….  We came back to the UK from France, and I was doing more hours at work. I focused on the e-courses rather than my own writing… not that these are good reasons of course. But I stopped writing small stones.

I kept seeing and hearing other people’s though. Amy Palko and Joanna Paterson started writing them. They were (very briefly) mentioned on BBC Radio Scotland. I was reading really lovely ones on our forum and on twitter with the #smallstone hash tag. A friend emailed me and asked where they could read my small stones.

I created a new badge for all you small stone writers. And I started writing again. When I started writing small stones again I noticed three things:

1) Writing small stones makes me pay better attention to the world. I thought I was pretty good at paying attention – but since I’ve started writing again I’ve really been looking and listening to what’s going on. Really paying attention brings a whole host of things: moments of delight, as well as of longing and sadness. It deepens my connection with the whole of life.

2) Writing small stones makes me a better writer. In the act of writing I search for accurate descriptions, and for interesting metaphors and similes. I try and avoid clichés – I want my small stone to be as fresh as the moment that I noticed. Through writing small stones I have learned new names for things, I have consulted colour charts and plant guides (it’s a cherry laurel at the bottom of next door’s garden) and I have turned the sounds of words over again and again…

3) I love doing it. I enjoy seeing things in the world, and I enjoy the craft of forming something beautiful with words.

If you need a fourth reason to start writing – how about the wonderful connection with people all over the world doing the same thing, each noticing one thing properly, writing it down, and sharing it on Twitter, Facebook, on their blogs, and at our forum? Such wonderful words from wonderful writers. Join us today.

Against pristine white clouds, the silhouette of a red kite, with wing-tips like splayed fingers.