A New Chapter: Coming Home

Fiona writes: This grainy photo, taken from the sales brochure, is where Kaspa & I shall be spending the next few weeks. Months. Years. Decades?

I hope so. I’m a putting-down-roots kind of person. Literally. I still miss the vegetable patch where I used to live with my ex-partner. We planted & ate tender sweetcorn, spherical courgettes, stripy beetroot, luscious raspberries, blackcurrants I’d make into jam…

As a Buddhist, I feel I shouldn’t get so excited about getting a mortgage. We rent where we are now, and I know in my heart that we are only really borrowing everything – our prized possessions, our savings, our friends & loved ones. Eventually we have to give it all back.

I know that our new mortgaged ‘property’ will eventually outgrow us, or us it.  

What a mortgage does buy us, though, is an opportunity to love this house for as long as we are willing and able.

To update the not-quite-to-our-taste wallpaper. To mend the broken door. To install a woodburner for cosy winter nights. To add to the plants the previous owner planted (hellebores! aubretia! a eucalytpus!) with our own favourites (peonies! honeywort!)

To create a space where we can welcome our friends with cups of tea and home-grown tomatoes. Where our cats will find new favourite spots to sleep. A place for spiritual practice and a place for the privileged work we do with our coaching & psychotherapy clients. Where we can move our garden chairs to the last light on summer evenings and gaze at the Malvern hills.

A space where Kaspa can follow his heart. A space where I can write. A space where I can write my way home!

I know that this house will not be perfect. I know that the boiler might give up the ghost one day, or we might keep banging our heads on an awkwardly placed shelf. We owe the mortgage company a lot of money. Our new neighbours might be fond of thrash metal.    

And yet. The love is bubbling up inside me.

Don’t worry, house. I know you’re empty & waiting. We’re coming home soon.

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STOP PRESS: I just found out that we’ve won a competition for a month’s supply of cake from Love Pure Cakes : ) Don’t they look delicious? Is this our week or WHAT?

Comments & replies

25 thoughts on “A New Chapter: Coming Home

  1. hopefuljo

    Congratulations! I hope the new home suits you well and that your move goes smoothly. Owning a home is a pleasure everyone should experience.

  2. Rosalind Adam

    I wish you all the best in your new home. It takes me a while to put down roots too but once I do it takes a lot to shift me. That photo looks as if there’s masses of potential to grow all that delicious veg again.

    As far as the money issue is concerned, I always feel that renting means you’re putting cash into the hands of people who do very little in return other than own the property you live in. Hope that helps.

  3. Hannah

    Congratulations. I hope your new home is filled with love and laughter.

    Don’t be too swift to uproot the hellebores. I never liked them because of their poison, and associations in literature. They seemed like a sinister plant, but I learnt to love the ones in my old cottage garden as in the depth of winter they were always there when nothing much else was. Call them “Lenten Rose” and they start to seem sweeter.

  4. Anonymous

    Wonderful news for you both, nothing quite like putting down roots, feeling the earth beneath your feet and the energy as it rises up inside you. xx Beverley

  5. francesca perry

    Congrats to you both, I just read that you’ve exchanged, the worst is over, now enjoy everything your new home brings xxx

  6. jem

    Best wishes for your new home Fiona and Kaspa. After years of renting the sense of belonging in living in our mortgaged home was / is unbelievable. To know we can be here until we die if we choose to be, and I think we do. And of course, like you, the garden, something that grows alongside us, with us and independently of us, is a highlight. Have fun with your eucalyptus, I hopes its as unruly, wild and pliable as ours!

  7. Maggie Baldry

    Wishing you and Kaspa and your cats many happy days and summer evenings in your new home

  8. nal

    I wish you both wonderful times in your new home, and great veges, flowers, sunsets and sunrises, and hope your cats love their new home

  9. Anonymous

    Well done both of you. It’s tough getting through the fiddly bits of a move. I wanted to sit down and weep when, as I went round the house making lists, I realised it would probably take me a lifetime to get everything done. Then the boiler died, and the velux windows were discovered to be blown, and the windows will cost a small fortune because I’m in a conservation area. But, like you I found something wonderful. Not a strawberry, but a toad. A toad? Yes, they keep insects and slugs away, they are quiet and secretive and good for the garden – which is good, because I’m terrible at gardens. Everything will be fine for you guys, keep tasting the strawberries and finding the toads. It’s all good and there is nothing like coming home to your own place 🙂 Sara

  10. Anonymous

    Well done both of you. It’s tough getting through the fiddly bits of a move. I wanted to sit down and weep when, as I went round the house making lists, I realised it would probably take me a lifetime to get everything done. Then the boiler died, and the velux windows were discovered to be blown, and the windows will cost a small fortune because I’m in a conservation area. But, like you I found something wonderful. Not a strawberry, but a toad. A toad? Yes, they keep insects and slugs away, they are quiet and secretive and good for the garden – which is good, because I’m terrible at gardens. Everything will be fine for you guys, keep tasting the strawberries and finding the toads. It’s all good and there is nothing like coming home to your own place 🙂 Sara

  11. Kris

    Good fortune in you new home, Fiona and Kaspa!
    I’m sure you’ll find many small stones in that garden.

    Kris

  12. Grace Johnson

    Good for you, you finally find a good home for you and your family. I just also got my house and availed to some boston mortgage loans which really gives me good payment methods and let me pick a really nice and suitable home for us.

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